This week has been very difficult. So many sad news lately has made me feel so sad and vurnerable. This time, tragedy has hit my new home Orlando with a chain of devastating events that can take us to a very dark place.
The horrific event of Orlando Pulse Club, is so unbelievable hard, that I could not even believe it. The text message from a son to his mother…Mummy, I Love You, minutes before he died…is going to stay forever with me. I felt it like I was his mother…those where my children in that club in any circumstance.
And now, its time to start the healing process. Events like this can take a big hit in our emotions. To the point of paralyze us. If you are feeling down or depressed theres a lot of places offering free counseling in Orlando. Also, you can start by expressing this feelings and start the healing. This is a loss, a personal one, even if we didn’t know the victims.
Dealing with loss:
1. Allow yourself to be in the feelings.
People are fearful that they will become overwhelmed with emotions if they allow themselves to feel deeply. The truth is the more you ignore, avoid, or try to push through these feelings the more they will drain you and overwhelm you. Embrace what it is you are feeling and what it is that you need so you may gracefully move through the experience.
2. Give yourself time.
There are stages of grief and loss and they do not unfold overnight. Please be gentle and kind with yourself and not to try to push though the process quickly. When you honor your needs and give yourself time to heal you will move forward with an open heart, knowing what is unfolding is in perfect time.
3. Allow yourself to detach from trying to control circumstances and outcomes.
There are many things beyond your control when experiencing a loss and surrendering to what you cannot control allows a centering back to yourself and what it is you truly need. Being still and focusing on the "here and now" allows you an opportunity to let go of what you can't control and soften to what you can.
4. Support and love is the way through loss.
There is an opportunity to open your heart and be vulnerable with those in your life during this process. When you are honest and allow others to be there with you on your healing journey you create deeper relationships. This has been the greatest gift in my experience and I am grateful for all those who have lovingly offered support and understanding in this time of loss.
5. Find comfort in creating.
During some of the most difficult times in my life I have looked to art as a balm for my soul. Art allows a soft resting place for grief. I've used the art to honor those losses and those I have loved, as well as a gift for myself to help heal and nourish my soul.
by: Laura Dessauer, EdD, ATR-BC, LCAT Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/3321154